posted on July 8, 2010 at 8:47 am

took my beloved and sweet human bunny to the ear nose throat quack
she hasnt been breathing properly for a while
her tonsils n adenoids are huge
and the roof of her mouth is quite arched
so in just under 2 weeks
shes having em removed
i’m kinda nervous but apparently it has to be done
my accountant TOLD me to get some medical insurance but i didnt
n now i gotta pay top $ to get her in n done quickly
and to jump the queue in public hospital system
can you believe its gonna cost 4 grand….sheesh!
we were afraid if we waited the year it would have taken
she would have serious problems with breathing n teeth
she has been quite weary n tired for a while
thats because she cant breathe through her nose
and isnt getting enough rem sleep per night
god i love her to pieces so i hope the op goes alright
and that she can get some decent sleep without snoring
apparently her tonsils n ads are quite enormous
she took it all quite stoically as is her wont
poor bunny…gee shes a good girl
shes working on her book about eddie
a three eyed monster
a strange enchanted kid
gee i hope shes gonna be fine
i love her more than anything
(pic taken by j cain at isidore sessions)

39 Responses to “auroras tonsils n adenoids are going”

  1. avatar
    Georgia | 8 July 2010 at 9:15 am #

    Oh Steven,

    You are such a great father. She REALLY is going to be fine. I had it done when I was her age and it works. Your bunny will soon be eating ice cream and getting her REM sleep and you will be going to your accountant and ask him what insurance to buy. 🙂 Hopefully he does not scold you!

    Give your bunny a hug…

    Love and prayers-

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    Anonymous | 8 July 2010 at 9:26 am #

    She will be fine. I had the same op as a kid and apart from a really sore throat for a few days it was OK. In fact I remember the hospital playroom was a nice place to be.

    You are doing the right thing and your dedication to fatherhood will surely be repaid!

  3. avatar
    Anonymous | 8 July 2010 at 9:47 am #

    Gotta love the free medical system. Obama has given us the same shitty system. Best of luck.

    Tim Nutswander

  4. avatar
    veleska1970 | 8 July 2010 at 10:25 am #

    much love and hugs coming her way for a speedy recovery!!

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    DavidP | 8 July 2010 at 10:30 am #

    4 grand, oh my goodness!
    hope all goes well for your bunny and that she'll be hopping round as normal very soon.

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    Freddie | 8 July 2010 at 10:55 am #

    God bless the child. What a bummer but I’m sure it will go smoothly and she’ll be back to herself (even better) in no time.

    Love to you ♥ and one for Aurora, the young author ♥ too.

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    Anonymous | 8 July 2010 at 11:03 am #

    "you really are a good father" This is some tough love here Steve but being a truly good father is getting the medical insurance come hell or high water. It could easily be something more serious in the future. Loving a child is simply not enough. You have to prepare for worst case scenarios. Do you have life insurance? If not get some. Do the basics. Love you man but casually blowing off medical insurance is not acceptable for a responsible dad. As the old saying goes, trust in God but lock your car" Prayers go out to your lovely daughter.

    Jim O'Toole – Melbourne Fl

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    Jasperina | 8 July 2010 at 11:22 am #

    My eleven year old son has a similar problem with snoring, adnoids, tonsils…ever since he was a baby. Seeing the specialist again in August. I feel for you and your special bunny. All will be well.

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    fantasticandy | 8 July 2010 at 11:38 am #

    much love to aurora,
    i'm sure all will go well….

    i shall postpone my pimpfest once again until another 'happy' blogge.
    best wishes to y'all!

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    Andrea | 8 July 2010 at 12:01 pm #

    SK I am a doctor ("quack???") i know this op is average, of course every single case must be considered separately, but really this is a low risk thing. When I speak to parents (I work in a kids hospital) I tend to divide medical problems in two categories, nuisances and tragedies, this case definitely belongs to the former. Of course I am sending out my best vibes to you and I am sure this will turn out alright. On the other hand- getting a medical insurance is a great choice to make. Especially now that you and your family are free of major trouble, when people get sick or older, insurance companies will charge more, or even refuse. This makes me fell lucky that I live in a country where the health system is free for everyone.
    All the best,

  11. avatar
    Anonymous | 8 July 2010 at 12:30 pm #

    Its so hard when our kids are sick or need something done medically to improve their well being. You are doing the best thing for your daughter and that is whats is most important. You should get some insurance just so you can prevent the large expenses. Hope all goes well and try not to worry too much. Easier said then done I know. I have four kids myself and I worry about all of them often.

    Best Regards,

    Jason (jmb066)

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    Thomas Thomsen, Denmark | 8 July 2010 at 1:07 pm #

    I think that's very typical of creative people, not wanting to worry about the future, especially financial matters, insisting on living in the present. I never buy any insurance of any kind whatsoever, either.

    I'm sure she's gonna be fine.

    By the way, it would be interesting to know what your daughter thinks of the music you and Jeffrey Cain created together since she was in the studio with you guys.

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    Broken Toys and Heros | 8 July 2010 at 1:12 pm #

    As you worry ur self silly, our little ones just go about their business. Children are so much stronger than we can possibly imagine. Both mentally and physically. She will amaze u over the upcoming weeks with her strength, unlike u could ever imagine and when it is over, she will insist that it was all no big deal- and u and NK will be trembling in angst for her. children are the path to goodness, unfortunately- adults distort their map. take care, stay focused, and issue more hugs and kisses on a daily basis to all of ur flock. aurora is an angel, as all children are, and she is forever protected by a higher force than u or i can fanthom.



  14. avatar
    Ryan | 8 July 2010 at 2:38 pm #

    I had the tonsils yanked as a kid too. Don't remember anything except liking the chocolate pudding and all the desserts they kept bringing me.

    Here's to a speedy recovery!

  15. avatar
    lesley | 8 July 2010 at 2:40 pm #

    As a parent, I know the worries. Kids don't see it that way. She'll be better than new in no time and then you'll feel better too. Had my tonsils out when I was five. All I remember is the ice cream.

    My dad was an accountant and I wished I'd listened to him… sometimes. Nowadays insurance is a necessary evil and money is tight. However, insurance can't replace the love of a parent. Love is much more important! And you are there for her. You got it right.

    Loved the snarky "quack" comment.

  16. avatar
    Brien Comerford | 8 July 2010 at 2:43 pm #

    Enlightend countries should have low cost or free health care. A loving father being financially punished for ensuring the well-being of his daughter is anathema.

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    steve kilbey | 8 July 2010 at 3:41 pm #

    to clarify :
    there is free medical service in aust
    i could have it done free but we woulda waited one year for the hospital bed n we woulda got whichever surgeon was assigned
    but auroras palate was in danger of becoming deformed
    so i had to pay for a private room n getting an expert surgeon
    one night in private room costs $2500!

  18. avatar
    Anonymous | 8 July 2010 at 3:41 pm #

    Hey Steve, I was just looking through your past blogs and came up with this interesting one from when barack was elected. Where does the 4K you mention come from since you have free health care? So money does in fact exchange hands in utopia? here is your quote:
    "so baracks got a big mess to clean up
    will they let him do it?
    ok call me a dunce
    but i dont understand this:
    you can spend one bazillion bucks a day on subjugating iraq
    but you cant afford health care for the poor
    or to fix up the levies in new orleans…
    can someone explain that fucking bullshit?
    if my kids get sick
    i take em to local quack
    he sees em
    no money even changes hands
    surely the u.s. could afford that
    most countries got that…why not the u.s.?
    will "they" let obama sort this out?
    and if not…why not?so baracks got a big mess to clean up
    will they let him do it?

  19. avatar
    Anonymous | 8 July 2010 at 3:44 pm #

    Could have done it free but it would have taken a year..can't wait for america to get on that plan….in some cases if you don't have the money to move up in the queue you die….super deal there…god bless obama and worldwide socialism, it is super

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    Craig Miller | 8 July 2010 at 3:48 pm #

    Bummer about the cost of the operation. But, rest assured, the operation itself isn't anything to worry about. I had it done when I was 5, and it's not so bad. I mainly remember getting lots of free popsicles at the hospital.

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    Mary | 8 July 2010 at 4:24 pm #

    WOW Thats expensive!! but u know what? she will be great and thankful she has a dad that really cares so much to do this, my dad was the same way and still is, its nice to have a parent or parents that care so much, I have a problem where its hard for me to breath threw my nose and throat hurts all the time in the morning and now i snore bad, everyone tells me to go see a doc but after having ms and constant doc appts, u just dont want to go see another specialist! lol anyways she is gonna be fine and better in no time!
    love from Texas to your family


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    Donna | 8 July 2010 at 6:44 pm #

    Steve, I hate to be the depressing one in this group, but my daughter had her tonsils and adenoids removed also, because her airway was virtually obstructed (you could hear her snoring from miles away). Everyone told us it was "basic", "not a big deal", etc. But it was rough. She was in a lot of pain for days. I wish I/we had been better prepared emotionally for what was coming. But hey, she did recover and is much better off for having the surgery. I'll keep your daughter in my prayers and look forward to your update.

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    Anonymous | 8 July 2010 at 7:12 pm #

    When I was a single Mom raising my 3 boys, my youngest son got sick … Doc said tonsils n adenoids had to go. Well it was done, and he is now fine. It was a routine thing, they do all the time, so no need to to worry yourself sick. She will be fine! On a side note … Insurance is a must – your financial adviser steered you right, so you better get that too. It's just money. In the meantime, Bunny can start building up her body by eating lots of fruits and veggies and Vitamins. There isn't anything much harder than seeing one of your kiddos being sick. It's just a hard thing, but she will be just fine. I am sure there are many prayers going out for her now, including mine.

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    Anonymous | 8 July 2010 at 7:21 pm #

    The cost doesn't shock me in the slightest. I know health insurance is a pain in the ass. As a working stiff, you start feeling chained to it. You know you need it, yet it keeps whittling away at your salary that doesn't increase from year to year. And yet, somehow, though you keep paying more, you keep getting less. It is a temptation to say fuck it. But the alternative is something like what you've got or worse. And then you're really fucked. It's a real catch-22. And this free health care sucks, too. So, I guess you pay as much as you can for the children's sake.

  25. avatar
    cazziem | 8 July 2010 at 7:22 pm #

    You know you're doing the right thing by Aurora and at a time when it needs to be done, so it's great that you've got the ball rolling.
    Have to agree with ‘Broken Toys and Heroes’ though; as parents we stress out to the max over our kids whilst they just take life in their stride and don't see what we're fussing over. However, I'm sure that being used to her (sometimes) weird, but always wonderful father that any anxiety she may feel will be gone long before it has for you and NK. Much love and best wishes to you ALL. xx

  26. avatar
    Rik Rehab | 8 July 2010 at 8:16 pm #

    Nice one Steve. You're a good dad! Incredible how strong that parental instinct is, to protect and love our kids. You obviously have it in spades!

    Lots of love from the other side of the ditch.

    Rik Rehab

  27. avatar
    Ellen | 8 July 2010 at 8:19 pm #

    I had both my ads and tonsils taken out at the same time when I was 14. I had a general MD do the surgery, and while there were no complications/problems at all, it took a while to recover. So, my unsolicited advice is to be sure the surgeon specializes in this sort of thing because her recovery time will be hastened greatly.

    She'll be fine, Steve. Aurora sounds like a brave girl – a real trooper. And you're a great dad, so loving and concerned, as any good father would be.

    She'll be okay. Tell her one of your fans from California knows what it's like and please give her a hug for me, okay?

  28. avatar
    Hellbound Heart | 8 July 2010 at 9:24 pm #

    2 and a half grand for a room??? for one night??? jesus, man, make sure it's got hot-and-cold running everything!!!

    aurora will be fine… are very tough little creatures…

    love always…..

  29. avatar
    Caspian | 8 July 2010 at 9:33 pm #

    Cute kid, she'll be fine, thought you had national health care in Australia, the classic con where the product(medical care) is priced artificially high, pisses me off big time, keep swimming my friend.

  30. avatar
    simonlawlorandtherealisation | 8 July 2010 at 10:44 pm #

    i had the exact same problem – my tonsils were massive – I got them removed when i was a little older than her – she'll be fine – in fact, the next thing she'll know is waking up, with a sense of relief it's all over

  31. avatar
    Anonymous | 9 July 2010 at 1:56 am #

    thoughts to your daughter, and you and her mom… the operation/ recovery will go quick — her parents' love, concern, and quick care instead of waiting through any system will be her memory.

  32. avatar
    Steven Krut | 9 July 2010 at 3:32 am #

    I'm sure she'll be fine.

  33. avatar
    EDD | 9 July 2010 at 4:37 am #

    I believe insurance is a huge sham…I owe a medical bill despite it…I know,gotta pay sumthin but when you get a $15 to $30 payment on a $400 bill….on one income that is below modest(I know, my own fault, Right?)….the hospitals, doctors and technicians(sorry, professionals) in America are on par with the banks and oil companies as far as I'm concerned…..

  34. avatar
    davem | 9 July 2010 at 6:13 am #

    Pesky kids.
    Wishing the little 'un all the best!

  35. avatar
    lily was here | 9 July 2010 at 6:30 am #

    ps I know the feeling. We didnt have health insurance when J's tonsils had to come out but it was well worth spending the money to have it done straight away rather than wait more than 6 months for the free surgery. Worked out cheaper than health insurance that year anyway. I've never regretted it, its my kid. But regarding health insurance, theres never been a better time than now to invest. The system's up shit creek at the moment. I could tell you some horror stories of what people go through waiting for medical services, you dont want to go through it for the sake of a few thousand dollars a year. It is a rip off, but the alternatives are not good. You'll sleep a lot better. I just look at it as contributing. It surprises me when people can afford $3,000 plus for a plasma telly but not for health care for their kids.

    Love xo

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    eek | 9 July 2010 at 7:18 am #

    Much love to both of you. Aurora should feel so much better once she's healed — it will be well worth it. It's tough to make this kind of decision for someone else though, isn't it? Even when you know it's the best thing and will benefit them, it's so hard to do. So good thoughts to both of you.

    I've been sans health insurance for the past 14 years, so when I read $4000 AUD for this surgery (and private room) my reaction was "FUCK! You got a hell of a deal!" I did a little research and the average cost of similar surgery in the US without insurance is $5442 USD. What is generally included in this cost is a pre-op dr. visit (to the doctor's office); the surgery itself; and post surgical follow up. There is no mention of a hospital room (and 50% of these surgeries of patients under 15 are done as outpatients), so a room may or may not be included in this cost. When converted from USD to AUD at today's rates, that $5442 figure goes up to $6199.69. So, yep, $4000 is a lot of money, but be very, very happy you are having it done in Australia. You really are getting a deal, Steve!

    And what of the $2500 AUD for a private room? My aunt was in the hospital last year and was put into a semi-private room (a two person room for those not familiar with the term). The cost of that room on the statement I got (before the hospital had her insurance info) was a little over $2200 USD, or at today's currency conversion rates, MORE than what you will be charged for a private room. ($2500 AUD converts to $2194 AUD today)

    $4000 is still a big chunk of change any way you look at it, but it will make Aurora's life so much better. And it has to be a comfort to know that if you couldn't come up with that amount that she would still be able to get the surgery — even with a long wait. Under the system currently in place in the US we have no such assurances.

    Very sweet picture today. Made me smile.

  37. avatar
    Anonymous | 9 July 2010 at 7:53 am #

    Pity you live in Sydney Steve.You'd get it done straight away in Melbourne.My daughter Erin had her tonsils removed in a Public hospital (Royal Children's)2 days after referral.NSW Health System is a basket case.All the best to Aurora.Regards, Another 55yo Steve.

  38. avatar
    Anonymous | 9 July 2010 at 10:24 am #

    Killah- She'll be fine.
    You know how to pay for all this? That Starfish/Untitled #23 Tour you all were discussing! And don't give away so much free stuff on the next tour! We would have all paid for the program and cd single(but it was an honest to God wonderful gesture to all us long time fans).

  39. avatar
    Anonymous | 10 July 2010 at 10:19 am #

    Best, healthful wishes to Aurora! The photo is very sweet. Dad with ye olde book and girl with electronic gizmo. 🙂

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