posted on November 1, 2006 at 7:33 pm

something i been meaning to talk to you about
detachment
its a strange thing
its a subtle thing
it might be well beneath your radar
but lets spend some time here
to think about detachment..
last nite i gave an off the cuff speech
at a book launch here in sydney
outside in a little garden
the place filled up with people unexpectedly
i was nervous
there were writers n fellow musicians
and reg mombassa who is one of australias
greatest n most recognizable living artists
i spoke to him briefly about painting
he smiled broadly
“mate, every one can paint….”
yes n no, reg
everyone has the ability to do almost eanything
but most people dont do hardly any of it…
aha professor yebliks theory of detachment
so im at this place
im launching this book
its gotta be good
my peers n the cognoscenti have all rolled up
(and my my, what a warm romantic sydney evening it was…!)
the editor of this issue, mark mordue
gives a little spiel as intro about me
i suddenly get very nervous
my mind alternates between blank
and all my voices
the tb,
sk,
ny
all screaming instructions at once
i step up to the mike
i take a deep breath
good evening, ladies n gentlemen
im pleased to be here to endorse this wonderful
blah blah blah……
a speech magically unrolls from my mind
it dances off my tongue 95% perfect
i stumble over the occaisional tongue twister
but i never falter
i never um n err
i go slowly when i need emphasis
i get louder n softer
i get closer n then move away from the mike
the audience laugh at the funny bits
they empathise with the sad n serious bits
and im just standing there
a vessel
letting my detachment unravel this very nice speech
that my subconscious is putting together on the fly
ya see i read a thing bout tiger woods
this writer reckoned although obviously the tiger
is an excellent technical golfer
what really sets him apart
is his ability to detach
and ive thought about it
n ive thought about it
n i believe it
n im sharing it with you now
cultivate detachment fiends
ahhh……..
uh-huh…..
oh, it aint so easy as all that , mr yeblik
no it aint, my fiend
otherwise we’d all be as detached as hell
you will find detachment in yoga, chi gong n swimming
thats where im getting my fucking abundancy from
but i know surfing, martial arts, dancing, hang gliding
diving, marathon…oh lots n lots
you get the picture dontcha
n jaime ll tell ya devotion to god will bring detachment
and thats true as well
cos that guy next door with the golf clubs
who has a hit every sunday arvo with his mates
he might be as good or even better than the tiger
bullshit mr yeblik ,you say
no fiend, the detachment is the thing
put mr next-door in a big comp n he’ll wither
the tiger might be playing for a small island
or a million bucks
but when he takes that big amazing winning shot
well fiend you gotta believe hes detached
his mind has gotten outta the way
so his tigerself, the real him, the one who can judge
the one who implicitly understands distance n velocity
and can translate that into a swing and a drive
(or whatever, what do i know about golf lingo?)
so ive been onstage at important or strange gigs
n i havent been able to detach
the band hasnt been able to detach as a unit
uh oh bad news
all my experience exhausted as i struggle with non-detachedness
im playing the bass too hard
plucking the strings like im plucking a soy turkey
im pushing down on the fretboard with a million pounds per square inch
instead of tickling n caressing it
my voice is caught in my tightened up larynx
nothings flowing
nothing can get thru
ah sweet detachment…
wherefore art thou?
anyway
practice it fiends
detachment
its gonna take ya a while
but its real important
if ya gonna speak in public especially
anyway
i also met bobby flynn last nite
wow
im impressed
hes got the x-factor in spades fiends
he could still possibly blow it
or some mother in a suit could still blow it for ‘im
but hes just got this feeling about him
that hes generating music all the time
even if ya cant hear anything at the moment
and hes detached, baybee
he verily doth know the great n subtle secret of performance
bobby, i hope you go all the way, olde son
and when ya get there
please
tell em, that the time being sent ya!
and ya got his blessing!

59 Responses to “get detached, baybee!”

  1. avatar
    fantasticandy | 1 November 2006 at 8:32 pm #

    i got semi-detached,3 bedrooms and a garage.———–hey!its a start.

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    Anonymous | 1 November 2006 at 8:39 pm #

    yep, it one of the common teachings across all the faiths / isms.. detachment, yr gotta stand away from yr self and let it flow..thanks fr reminding me….a variation on it is ‘lose yr mind follow yr behind’..just groove. PV

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    stealthblue | 1 November 2006 at 8:50 pm #

    Thank you for the reminder. I do try to practice it, but sometimes all that outside BS just wraps you like an unwanted blanket on a hot-n-humid day. BTW-that Bobby Flynn is one lucky fella to have achieved your blessing like that. Good on ya, Steve for your support-n-all you do.
    Aloha,
    BV

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    CAPTAIN BEYOND | 1 November 2006 at 9:04 pm #

    please detach this poor soul like never before…
    mjnjr

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    Mega-Jason | 1 November 2006 at 9:59 pm #

    Detachment??

    My mom, almost 50, goes back to school to get her degree.
    Sociology is a requirement. OK. She can read the books, write the papers, but what’s this?
    A presentation in front of the class?
    Speaking to all those people?
    Mom panics. Can’t even write her paper. So, hours before she does the thinkg she knows best – crafts.
    Makes a puppet show! Cuts a hole in box, pretties it up, sacrifices two socks…
    In class, her turn comes up. She walks up in front of the class, puts the box over her head so she can’t see anybody and lets the puppets do the talking for her.
    To this day she doesn’t remember what she said.
    Teach said the content alone was worth an ‘B’, but the presentation pushed it up to an ‘A’.

    Detachment.

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    John Garratt | 1 November 2006 at 10:24 pm #

    This advice would have come in handy earlier…when I was best man for a wedding…and the words weren’t fucking coming during a toast. God, HATE it when that happens.

    John

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    mattdavison | 1 November 2006 at 10:36 pm #

    you were detached when you wrote this one were’nt you sK.

    ..just brilliant
    m

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    damien | 1 November 2006 at 10:46 pm #

    “A Jedi can feel the Force flowing through him.”

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    Anonymous | 1 November 2006 at 10:50 pm #

    SK,

    I’m with you on this one and you mentioned my special topic running!Never thought i’d see that. Anyway my morning run today which can sometimes be an hour was a very difficult 30 minutes- seemed like two hours of pure pain – no detachment today other days i can float and enjoy every minute!

    DR

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    Anonymous | 1 November 2006 at 11:00 pm #

    Thanks Steve – This blogg means alot to me and I really appreciate your time and effort……

    Close to you, hear all you say
    Even though your continents away…

    You taught me about detachment 22 years ago….Today is a timely reminder TB.

    Pierre

    Melbourne

    When the rain comes they run and hide their heads…………….

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    Melquiades | 1 November 2006 at 11:30 pm #

    detachment is something I definitely struggle with in almost all I do. Overthinking things can get over on you in almost all situations. Work, play, songwriting, performing. I know that esp. when playing music as soon as I go to record I get too perfectionized in my head and try to get every thing just right and if I don’t well then start over….that is debilitating.

    I like your advice. I agree with it. Now it’s just applying. thanks steve for your inspiring and intelligent words.

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    Anonymous | 1 November 2006 at 11:53 pm #

    You are very right. I am very envious of you and all those who can master this. I cannot. Pathological fear of public speaking. I’ve usually got all my material sorted and correct (and wit in spades!!) but I ain’t never been able to lick the fear of being up there. Great actors can do it too, detach themselves from their own personas and take on another.

    I can only recall it happening once to me. I was doing some training and got pulled up in front of the class to do a roll play with another member of the group. I normally hate these. I think I had to be a disgruntled employee who is hard to manage in a performance review.

    Anyhoo, as we kick off I feel something of a transforamtion occuring…..I’m really, really disgruntled. And suddnely I have a non-specific accent and have a malevolent sneer on my face. I lock on to my points and ram them home to the poor dude sitting opposite me. He hardly gets a word in. I don’t even give him a chance to speak. I forget that everyone is watching, I can’t even see them. I’m spitting and swearing in his face! He’s cowering and withdrawing into his chair. He’s frightened. I’m standing over him in a threatening manner when the facillitator says ‘enough!’ and goes on to say how well role plays can work…especially when ppl with acting training participate and they become ‘real’. Everyone claps wildly. I give my poor role play partner a hug, he’s sitting limply in his chair after my verbal assault. He says to me later I was like a cross between Brando and DeNiro and asks about my training etc. and says how fantastic I was. I ain’t had any training.

    I dunno what happened. Some sort of detachment took place, but I can’t quite describe it. I did feel very brave afterwards, for some reason. And I really liked it.

    That’s my only experience with it.

    B.Bon

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    Anonymous | 2 November 2006 at 12:00 am #

    I believe it’s called being stoned you crazy old hippie. Chi gong my arse.

  14. avatar
    CeciliaGin | 2 November 2006 at 12:06 am #

    …it’s like when you forget yourself…

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    wil-O | 2 November 2006 at 12:15 am #

    Douglas Adams proposed a similar hypothesis in one of the H2G2 books, for learning to fly. Jump off something tall, then get distracted. Detachment. Fly.

    But who’d’ve thought we’d be reading about golf on your blogge, yon Kil-O?

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    the dean | 2 November 2006 at 12:25 am #

    I get detached talking to the boss at work, I can hear the jargonised crap coming out of my month and be thinking man this guy’s got a weird head.

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    veleska1970 | 2 November 2006 at 12:41 am #

    this is a skill i’m only beginning to master, especially within this past year. i’ve been striving for it all my life, but now that i’m finally in the process of achieving it, it’s great.

    and it’s really going to come in handy in a few weeks. i’m interviewing for a high-profile position. i hope i can be detached enough to pull it off……

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    Anonymous | 2 November 2006 at 12:44 am #

    You got a point – during your House of Blues gig in Orlando you seemed completely detached but played an absolutely amazing set. Please come back again and play all electric (and don’t forget to include Cortez).

    Ed in Florida

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    Anonymous | 2 November 2006 at 1:04 am #

    Thanks Steve, you are sooooo right. Best blogge ever – really positive, great way to start the day Mr. Killerbee

    Love
    Celticat

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    mike | 2 November 2006 at 2:11 am #

    I see what you mean. Whenever I have to give a speech – my mind always gets in the way trying to think what I’m going to say before I say it – and it gets worse as I get nervous – can I have some detachment please!!

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    MarkM | 2 November 2006 at 2:32 am #

    Perfect blog for me SK…..anxieteeee has always been my big problem before a gig. And that makes me play everything too fast, hit everything too hard – including my vocal chords which become all tightened. I’m learning slowly how to become detatched – to make myself as flat as possible before a gig. Relaxation therapy helps a lot for me…..because the problems are all in my mind, and the mind turns that tension into something physical….this blog means a lot to me…one to print off and hang up on the wall.
    Actually getting to meet you, oh Mr Klibey, backstage at the National was enough to send my mind racing but alas no words were forming….detatchment..next time, detatchment…but then again meeting one of your hero’s is always a rare privilege indeed……..but a strange experience at the same time. Loved the blog Steve….thanks.
    MarkM

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    Cameras 4 Eyes | 2 November 2006 at 2:37 am #

    If the blog stays or goes
    I’m detached

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    lee | 2 November 2006 at 2:53 am #

    Yay! You met bobby, you lucky bugger. Just as well he got the boot from the show – now he can go do what he wants to do instead of a wanky idol winner album. When he sang when the war is over it gave me the shivers and I realised afterwards that there were tears in my eyes.How often does that happen? – and on a show like that -never.

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    JJ | 2 November 2006 at 2:57 am #

    Hmm….didn’t expect to open the TB and be reading about Tiger Woods – interesting. You mentioned surfing, well I whitewater kayak, and I’m pretty good at it. But it’s not the sport I pursue, but the mental alteration – nothing exists but the moment paddling through big rapids, no thought, just feeling, all elements passing through you. I was on the river today, thinking of nothing related at all to anxiety, or work, or problems. Always playing music in my head – frequently yours. I can’t paddle without songs playing in my head.

    i have to deliver presentations at work to groups of 80 nurses sometimes, I just get up there and let it flow. I wasn’t always like this; I had to learn to be detached as well. I read a lot in this blogge that I recognized. This has become habit -forming, checking into the TB for daily thoughts and insights.

    So, what was the book about that you were endorsing? Tell us about the author.

    JJ

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    Anonymous | 2 November 2006 at 3:13 am #

    Ian Rilen has plucked his last, and shuffled stylishly off this mortal coil SK.

    Another sad day for rock n roll.

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    Melquiades | 2 November 2006 at 3:15 am #

    don’t leave come the end of November. I look to your words as something more than what it is. Steve, you are more than what you know and we have a long way to go.

    I understand this is time consuming, but if you are interested and curious about what we have here, please continue.

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    fergal | 2 November 2006 at 3:28 am #

    i believe that detachment is perhaps not necessarily the same as indifference?
    irrespective (iris perspective), all things are impermanent
    ~

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    Chump | 2 November 2006 at 4:17 am #

    I remember watching you in Atlanta this past tour and you just seemed to be in the zone.

    Your fingers just moved to the right places.

    It was like breathing for you, autopilot all the wayl

    I’ll bet if you tried to think about where they go next thats when you’d hit the wrong one. Didn’t happen that night.

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    scott | 2 November 2006 at 4:41 am #

    true that

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    cita | 2 November 2006 at 5:31 am #

    when i draw well

    it just all flows effortlessly

    creativity has its own power

    trying to tap into it is the key

    detachment is all about letting go

    a zen thing

    a getting into the zone thing

    yoga walking meditation

    will definately take you there

    it becomes innate

    it will click in to place

    the universe is one

    magical and wonderful place

    when we feel this

    close connection

    with the divine forces

    may the the stars

    continue to shine upon you

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    Anonymous | 2 November 2006 at 5:52 am #


    todays lession is well heeded and needed
    by one such as i

    further adventures of the mem being: untitled

    NaNoWrMo

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    Belfrank | 2 November 2006 at 5:55 am #

    Killa – remeber the venue levitated into blissful detacthment during MWPs solo in Hotel Womb at Whelan’s in 1998. You do, don’t you. That’s detatchment at it’s best. The power and spirit of your music can take us all to wonderful places. That’s what brings the blogge together too.
    Must be Peter’s birthday soon – don’t detatch the blogge on us SK.
    By the way – Die Nacht Der Seele is up there with Florian Fricke’s best. Just stay away from Shepherd’s Symphony and City Raga if you want to enjoy the Vuh.
    PS – Back to Bowie – the live arrangement of the title track of Heathen and the acoustic Loving The Alien that Bowie did on his 2004 tour ar the best things he’s done in decades. I’ll prove it.
    Belfy

    Belf

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    ...being here, doing this... | 2 November 2006 at 6:04 am #

    I love the way artists such as yourself can detach so as to open the channel of creativity and let the magic flow through. That is a beautiful and inspirational use of detachment.

    There are many ways to cultivate detachment in life. One area that particularly interests and inspires me is this one.

    One of the great things about this world is the endless ways and opportunities that we have to develop and grow.

    It’s really inspirational to open our minds and become aware of new and creative Ways to live.

    The middle Way, the hippy Way, the creative Way, the mystical Way, the psychological Way, the philosophical Way, the high way, the free Way…

    In reading and responding to the Time Being…I find myself opening my mind to new ways of looking at the world.

    I intend to keep that process of investigation alive.

    When we reach a point where we think we know it all…we may as well be dead. There’s so much to learn, so much to understand and assimilate.

    It’s imperative to keep an open mind.

  34. avatar
    Anonymous | 2 November 2006 at 6:22 am #

    Hello there,

    I was at the Meanjin launch last night and you didn’t seem nervous at all, so there you go. I really liked the song the woman did about the bee, but of course can’t remember her name.

    Lovely to find your blog for lots of reasons. My day off today so I’ve had a trawl through. It was so interesting and moving to read the stuff you’ve written about Grant McLennan, about the songs on the first Jack Frost album.

    I’ve been a fan of The Church, Go-Betweens, Grant and Jack Frost for a long time. I’ll tell you a funny story from my yoof and possibly get to the point I want to make.

    In ’91 (I think) I went to see Grant supporting someone at the State Theatre in Sydney, I was 19. I remember you walked past and I kinda went into this weird fan shock thing, I had to sit down. My flatmate was all “Are you OK?” and I had to explain to her that you had just walked past and that I didn’t think I could get up for a minute.

    Well thankfully I grew up and stopped being so um, over the top in awe of people whose work I admire.

    I never approach ‘famous’ people though, as in my mid-twenties I went up to David Malouf at a festival and told him how much I’ve enjoyed his books, he said a quick weary thank you then looked away. I felt like such an idiot that I’ve never done anything like it since. He was probably just tired or bored or whatever, who knows? The problem is when there are artists you admire and you want to convey your admiration of their work to them and you must just come across as either a pest, a wacko or another boring fan.

    Anyway….it was good to find your blog because it’s interesting, because the first Jack Frost album has such a special place in my heart and it was wonderful to read about the songs and because it gives me a chance to say a large thank you for your work anonymously.

    Thank you.

  35. avatar
    Anonymous | 2 November 2006 at 6:43 am #

    There’s nothing worse than getting the chance for a one on one with someone whose work you admire, only to get an off-hand and dismissive response…

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    eek | 2 November 2006 at 8:10 am #

    The times I have had things work out exceptionally well have been the times where it just seems to happen. Detached is the perfect description too, because at those times I almost feel as if I’m outside looking in or as if I’m being controlled by something other than me, but it’s a great feeling, not a bad one. I still remember once years ago doing an essay for a class. It just rolled out — complete and errorless. When I read it over after I finished it I thought “Damn! This is good!” Now it certainly wasn’t a great piece in the annals of writing, but for what it was, it was excellent (and very easy, which was a major plus 😉 ).

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    retinasoup | 2 November 2006 at 9:05 am #

    Wow! SK meets RM. My favourite personalities in Australian Rock music. I never thought this would happen!

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    captainmission | 2 November 2006 at 10:22 am #

    this explains why i always get the girl when i’m detached, but most of the time its to late, being detached takes a lot of vigilance and discipline and sometimes hallucigens, the secret seems to be keeping in the moment of things, but also being detached from that as well….
    nice topic, stimulating food for thought.
    for a magickian to have success in a spell they must place no attachments to the result. i’ve spent a few years experimenting with this idea, and i’d say its quite a significant idea but i’m not attached to it 🙂

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    ben | 2 November 2006 at 10:57 am #

    iv detached myself for years with something looming in the distance. but only attaching to substitute attractions detaching me from my gifts which were seemingly out of my hands(mind). as if i was running away from my powers mlesting my spirit of allthats left to attach my detachment. i grew weary with knowledge referring to motive, trust, unless a peacefull arguement ensued of course. im ata peacefull place know as you seem to be and the willingless to learn is my newest thing. its always the first thing i chose after my mind spins me round and now. stayin in that detachment supplies my need as yours serves yours,( i mean, i read your blogg, as its taught another willing student) but if im willing and your not, well the fire dies, an vise versa). no moment is mine unless im learnin. i misuse the power detaching the time being and investing in past or future.

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    MarkM | 2 November 2006 at 11:05 am #

    “There’s nothing worse than getting the chance for a one on one with someone whose work you admire, only to get an off-hand and dismissive response…”

    ##################################

    I couldn’t agree more…..I could tell a particularly sad story here about the time I met Andy Summers – guitarist for The Police – who’s playing had influenced me for years….but some stories should just remain untold….or at least quickly forgotten!
    MarkM

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    Anonymous | 2 November 2006 at 12:34 pm #

    Bobby Flynn and his own songs can be found in Myspace. He seems to have an EP out too. Does he sound detached? I dunno.

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    p!nb!l | 2 November 2006 at 12:37 pm #

    or you could try being attached to all things
    in all directions
    in equal proportions at once
    inverted detachment maybe?
    sound more inviting?
    self detachment = indiscriminate attachment
    or universal love
    just
    be sure to wear some flowers in your hair
    i don’t know
    i use to say that to an elderly woman in a group of jk followers
    very nice people
    troubled by interpreting detachment (with attachment)
    as something cold around the edges
    words sk . . .
    i know you love em
    and i love what you do with them
    but somehow they’ve repeatedly tripped us up
    pulling people down into muddy pools of thought & ownership
    that have become so destructive to what we all innately want
    that’s attachment i guess!
    in its particular and ugly form
    oh well blah blah
    i saw you do an amazingly detached solo performance
    at a spring livid in brizzy many years ago
    you were so detached that you forgot the lyrics to ALL your songs
    even utmw, do you remember that?
    you became a 4ZZZ legend that day
    very funny!

  43. avatar
    sockfaceppetmunch | 2 November 2006 at 12:37 pm #

    …Just remember that Its the social workers doctors, and the emergency crews who save you life in an crisis…They all have to detach in the situation.
    Humans really show spirit when we detach from the orb that is scattered thought.
    Mattdavison

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    sue cee | 2 November 2006 at 12:55 pm #

    into the zone ….

    i’ve seen you get that detachment and focus on stage Killer, and it works magically…Block soundcheck at The Basement (the best live performance ever of yours) etched in my mind forever

    bobby flynn was at the book launch?!

    Reg Mombassa – yes everyone CAN paint, write, sing … but in different degrees and depths ..and detachment! 🙂

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    restaurant mark | 2 November 2006 at 1:26 pm #

    i couldn’t agree more…it’s that separation where the words or the music, or the golf is playing you. our wonderful ability to think can sometimes get in the way and certainly ruin a nice detachment! great blog steve!
    take care man.

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    indigoruby | 2 November 2006 at 1:44 pm #

    I reckon non-attachment is the wonderful state of stepping back and letting things flow which you are talking about, like being some sort of medium, but I think it’s a state of being un-fixated rather than detatched. Anxiety is definitely a state of fixation: “me and my molasses” as Tori says.
    It’s great to be able to let things flow when you need to…but there would be nothing to flow with if you didn’t have preparation too ie. skill and practice. Actors talk about doing intense preparation so that stuff becomes automatic and then they can just let go and let it out – and it’s the same with public speaking or music.
    The hardest public speaking I have done was earlier this year was at the funeral of someone I was close to who had had a long and inspiring life. I was the only person outside the family who spoke and I wanted to lighten things up a little and get across how resourceful and funny she was – but boy did I prepare!
    Detatchment can be a good thing, but it’s a delicate in-the-moment balance: on the wrong side of indifference it can be about being cold, aloof, hard, unresponsive, over-analytical, reductionist, flat, dissociated or removed from feeling, passion and compassion ie. not very alive; I have friends who are fixated on being non-attached all the time and they tend to bottle things up and then occasionally go off the deep end in the most flamboyant and spectacular of ways…
    Being stoned makes you paradoxically detatched and really connected at the same time, I reckon.
    Emma

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    davidcwelker | 2 November 2006 at 2:44 pm #

    yeh, detachment helps to get another perspective of your presentation. it also helps to cultivate a higher level of EQ, emotional quotient. i’m sure we’ve all witnessed the rambling arse who goes on and on not realizing that nobody is following or even cares about what he’s saying. hmm… somebody pull that mirror away from me !

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    Handyman | 2 November 2006 at 3:33 pm #

    I spoke last night in front of about 800 people and news media for a work thing. I was remembering this post the whole time. In fact, in remembering it – I was detached, but still on task. It’s quite amazing how the mind goes on auto-pilot, yet stays on focus. You just let yourself go.

    Love,

    D

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    CSTCoach | 2 November 2006 at 3:33 pm #

    You know, I don’t know shit about golf or baseball or football or any of that (though i do know a little about martial arts), and yet i can coach those people and help them to get better at what they do (and lots of normal non-sport folk too, grandmothers, working stiffs, even a couple rock stars) cause the one thing in common is detatchment. In sports science its called “flow state” – being completely in the moment. Learning how to get out of your own way. It’s something that you CAN get better at, and it isn’t so impossible. It’s your birthright as a time being, drifting through the infinite…

    Travel is like that too. You can bump up against all your expectations, your supposed needs, your irate will who wants things done its own way. Or you can let go. Sit back and flow with it. Detatch and see where it all leads. It leads you to some pretty interesting places if you let it…

    ryan

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    Anonymous | 2 November 2006 at 5:01 pm #

    i never got stage fright for some reason – not detachment or complacency or confidence or anything I could pin down – just never got it. Same when I finally got to university aged 36 (it was that or be forced to work for the dole money, so…) – didn’t get nervous leading seminars, giving presentations or doing the lecture on the last day. And again, I’m not sure why. But it definitely wasn’t detachment. Hmmm…

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    Anonymous | 2 November 2006 at 5:01 pm #

    i never got stage fright for some reason – not detachment or complacency or confidence or anything I could pin down – just never got it. Same when I finally got to university aged 36 (it was that or be forced to work for the dole money, so…) – didn’t get nervous leading seminars, giving presentations or doing the lecture on the last day. And again, I’m not sure why. But it definitely wasn’t detachment. Hmmm…

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    John Garratt | 2 November 2006 at 5:53 pm #

    I’m reminded of meeting Peter Koppes after the Cincinnati gig. I asked him about mandolin playing, and he started speaking zen things about people getting in the way of instruments. Instruments can speak for themselves, if you let them. Detachment in a nutshell, no?

    John

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    Anonymous | 2 November 2006 at 7:08 pm #

    I can detach my conscious mind, only I can’t attach my subconscious mind, and I’m left somewhere in brain limbo, dimly aware of what I can and can’t do, as well as what I could do. Just this close to brilliance.

    -gut tree

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    syrinx | 2 November 2006 at 7:08 pm #

    I just committed to a project both similar and unlike any I’ve ever attempted before. I mean, I’m in. Began the part I’m good at the other night, but the people part..uh. I could blow that off or deal with it. I have deer-in-headlight syndrome when put on the spot to explain myself unexpectedly. It’s like “Can I go away until I’m not blind anymore, write a few things down – cause the words are in there – and get back to you?” Working on it. Working on it.

    I had a dream about Bobby Flynn four or five nights ago. We were both in the Idol dormitory folding clothes on our repsective little cots and having a chat. He seemed very nice. Why I was there I don’t know. I cannot sing.

    Tolerably.

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    davem | 2 November 2006 at 7:33 pm #

    Sue C stole my thunder.
    Golfers – & other sportspeople – call it being in the zone.
    I suspect it works in all sorts of pressure situations when you need to come through.
    Great blog again SK.
    Who the eff is Bobbly Flynn?
    Love you more,

    Dave M
    xx

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    ambnt1 | 2 November 2006 at 8:52 pm #

    Steven,

    Does this work for sex, too? If I practice getting detached before I “attach” myself (heh heh), will I become an even better lover (and I hear I’m damn good) than I am now??

    –Chris

    n.p. Love and Rockets, “Seventh Dream of Teenage Heaven”

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    Anonymous | 2 November 2006 at 9:34 pm #

    Hi Steve,

    When I was a young girl, I was hilarious…I could rattle off jokes by the dozen, ad lib like crazy and basically leave everyone gasping for air…but as I got older I suddenly lost my ability to improvise, I sort of lost my nerve, I swapped my true light-hearted persona for a mantle of boring detached dignity…I had forgotten how to tap into the real me…but I learned recently that my ‘funk’ was tied to the fact that I self-censor my words and thoughts to excess. I now strive to curb my self-censoring habit when I talk to people and find that the girl I thought was lost forever in this women’s body has returned with her former spunk & fire…not exactly detachment but it works for me!

    Cheers,
    B.

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    Jab @ BZT | 2 November 2006 at 10:11 pm #

    I got detached last night when I pulled out a mint copy of the second Church album, ‘The Blurred Crusade’, which had just come in the mail, and put it on the VPI Scout turntable.

    The earliest album I had on vinyl by you guys, or have ever heard straight through, before last night, was Heyday.

    So I’m sitting with a nice vodka buzz taking in this music, thinking to myself, ‘This band was so far above much of the shit floating in the MTV toilet of it’s time. The sound was real, not all trashed with fake drum sounds. Rich, full music.’

    Funny thing is I thought that same thing in a current time frame not long ago while listening to ULTC.

    The song, ‘Almost With You’, that one really struck me as so familiar. Was that pushed out there in ’82 as a single? (I’m asking questions like I’m actually going to get a response of some sort, heh.) Was there an MTV video that coincided with that song?

    In conclusion about The Blurred Crusade, I say with a bit of embarrassment that I was expecting something quite different. For some reason, I had a fear that anything before Heyday would fall into that shitty fake drum sounding crap that dominated in ’80 to ’84. For example, the difference between Talk Talk’s ‘Spirit Of Eden’ or ‘Laughing Stock’ compared to ‘The Party’s Over’. Nope. That’s one solid rock album there Mr. Kilbey.

    And, on subject now, detachment. This comes easy for some people. I’ve spent 20 years behind a radio microphone. Have stood on stage in front of 60 thousand rabid music fans. Have listened back to music albums I’ve written and recorded and thought to myself, ‘How the fuck did I do that? Where did that come from?’ It all comes from that detached zone. That beauty place where all good things that can spring forth from humans, does. Problem is, the older I get, the less I go there. My question there is, is that caused by simple carelessness, or, the ever increasing sense of hopelessness brought on by my country falling into fascism. Hmmmmm… Could just be pure laziness too.

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    Centuryhouse | 2 November 2006 at 11:53 pm #

    I agree about the detachment. I used to do public speaking in front of large groups of people, and that’s how it went best with me – part of me was rattling off words on the fly while I was somewhere else.

    the same thing happened in my old band playing live – I’d be singing & playing while my conscious mind was watching it, going “wow”.

    dw


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