posted on May 16, 2007 at 11:02 pm

and then one of white hippy moses disciples
oh mangey panther
i have a question that troubles my heart
and white hippy moses
and saw it was bon bon who had asked
speak up childe
if i can i will answer you
and bon bon spoke with trembling voice
oh wise guy
he said
how does one make love stay
and white hippy moses
said ah…..
first you must make friends with love
and then you must supply love with every necessity
bathe her precious feet in your scalding tears
make your softened heart her pillow of stars
bring her cloudberries with ambrosia and nepenthe
petition her with music and memories
refine yourself
purify yourself
make yourself worthy in her house
speak soft and just words
be a man of peace and light
wear simple garments
do not be afraid to be naked in her presence
reveal yourself as you hope she would be revealed
leave your jealousy behind for love has many lovers
bring love your truth and honour
bring love your finest self decked in joy and laughter
try hard for love, do your best
for love is easily offended
and can depart in a single moment
alas, never to return….

and the people who heard his words
knew they could be true
and all hastened to their own houses
to renew the search for love
sweet sweet love
forever and ever
ah man

60 Responses to “how to make love stay”

  1. avatar
    eek | 16 May 2007 at 11:25 pm #

    Well that will work if love is a woman, but if it’s a guy you have to use duct tape.

  2. avatar
    eek | 16 May 2007 at 11:30 pm #

    …and sometimes a baseball bat or crowbar to knock ’em out first.

    (as you may have figured out, eek isn’t exactly the most romantic person on earth. Not as cynical as the anon of a couple of days ago though…)

  3. avatar
    Anonymous | 16 May 2007 at 11:41 pm #

    I’m still laughing at your saying Richard Ashcroft is “turning to Neil Diamond before your eyes.” That’s hilarious, and I loved Verve.

    from Brian Nejedly in Jamaica.
    Brother of Sir Kev of Kilbeyland.

  4. avatar
    snowfaller | 16 May 2007 at 11:43 pm #

    Master SK,

    How the hell do you know exactly what to talk about to help me through my current life difficulties?

    Thank you for keeping me from giving up on love…

  5. avatar
    Tim | 16 May 2007 at 11:48 pm #

    Not only does eek decide to be the first to comment…but the second
    as well…

    oh well

    your writing, and not just in this particular case and I don’t know why but
    has reminded me of a poet I have not read in a long
    time. AE was his pen name
    An Irish seer
    real name
    George William Russell..
    Check out Candle of Vision

  6. avatar
    EARTHFRIEND | 16 May 2007 at 11:49 pm #

    oh where thou me arts man???

  7. avatar
    Tim | 16 May 2007 at 11:51 pm #


    The Candle of Vision describes Russells’ luminous excursions into the otherworld, including clairvoyant and prophetic visions, precognition of Gnostic concepts, past-life and astral journeys, and, always, heightened awareness of the beauty that pervades mundane reality. Russell describes encounters with what today we would call UFOs, and attempts to construct a private Kabala based on an intuitive reconstuction of a primal language and alphabet. Lastly, he attempts to put a mystical gloss on the primeval Celtic pagan deities. Lovers of Celtic lore and ecstatic mystic literature will both find much to enjoy in this short book.

  8. avatar
    Anonymous | 16 May 2007 at 11:58 pm #

    as a lov and alover,and a woman,and a goddess,and a human.with shortcomings and merits……i say ah man nah ah girls,and ah haemophrodites…..nice one Mr Kilbey…..much love to all …and their respective “loves”,may they bring you much joy and oooooomph !!!!!!!!genx xxx

  9. avatar
    Anonymous | 16 May 2007 at 11:58 pm #

    Heroes is a pretty good television series.

    I wonder if Steven Kilbey of the Church watches this show?

    Chasers-the war on everything is a pretty good television series.

    I wonder if Steven Kilbey of the Church watches this show?

  10. avatar
    Anonymous | 17 May 2007 at 12:20 am #

    Absence makes the heart grow love?

  11. avatar
    Anonymous | 17 May 2007 at 12:34 am #

    why is it that we evolved from apes but apes still exist?

    We’ll the reason is that Steve Kilbey asked his god to keep em cause he thinks there cool.

  12. avatar
    Anonymous | 17 May 2007 at 12:42 am #

    Glad you’re back, hope the hands r getting better,don’t overdo the typing, want to c u play the bass & make it soar.

    Fambley must be due back any day now, have u done the washing up?

    Patiently awaiting news of you/church/or any combo of a Sydley gig.

    Peace & love,

  13. avatar
    isolde | 17 May 2007 at 12:51 am #

    love grows where your melted snow flows down from the sierra nevada down down the handrails in this garden of the alhambra rippling and splashing into palace pools and trees carpet with blossoms this path where you walk each day

  14. avatar
    Anonymous | 17 May 2007 at 12:58 am #

    sounds like you are longing for the Mrs. Kilbey and the children good thing they will be back SOON, hope they enjoyed thier vacation as you learned how much you really need them in your ROCK and ROLL type life

  15. avatar
    veleska1970 | 17 May 2007 at 1:06 am #

    ah, love~~such a many-splendored thing. simple yet complex. soothing yet maddening. just what exactly is love?? i don’t believe in recent explanations that it’s just “chemical reactions in the brain”….it goes much deeper than that.


  16. avatar
    Brien Comerford | 17 May 2007 at 1:24 am #

    I dug Sk’s prose about love but very little exists in this fallen world. Here in the United States there are countless homicides, racial and ethnic strife, domestic violence, adultery, child abuse, cruelty to animals, disrespect for old and disabled people, slaughterhouses, hunting, dogfighting, nihilism, atheism, religious bigotry and even horrible TV. Materialism reigns supreme and there is very little altruism. Just imagine the USA is one of the best places to live. I can’t fathom how hellish Zimbabwe and other places must be !

  17. avatar
    stealthblue | 17 May 2007 at 2:25 am #

    Right on, Stevo. Love DOES exist and if you are fortunate enough to have chosen to reciprocate love, you should cherish that island. Granted it is not all easy and effortless! In fact, it can be one of the most challenging experiences in life. Nonetheless, it is worth it with the right mate, at the right moment. Sometimes, one can even repel love by trying too much, or looking in the wrong places. I dunno…all I DO know is that my personal experience with love is that I have been fortunate enough to be with some really beautiful, intriguing women, who are exceptional human beings. Also, I have been burned pretty bad in the past trying to start that fire most of us desire. Presently, I feel blessed to have been given “another second chance.”
    I am thankful for that.

    I sincerely hope all of you find love, if you haven’t already. I am not saying compromise is not a factor, nor sacrifice for that matter. Besides we all live and hopefully learn. Just remember, love knows no bounds, and it IS indeed everywhere, especially in places you least expect, or with whom you least expect it to be with.

    Brian C., I think I know where you’re coming from, but don’t be too discouraged, the world in all its disguises and disgust is still beautiful and still full of love…clouded as it may be, even in “places like Zimbabwe.” The thing to consider about the world we live in now is…nothing has really changed, now there is just a shitload more people, a faster pace and exponential problems that have always existed in one way shape or form.

    Anyway, it’s good to read everyone’s bits and whatever the subject, always a pleasure to read the excerpts of our very own “White Hippy Moses.” Right on, right on, right on…
    Cheers to all.
    Ben V.

  18. avatar
    Belfrank | 17 May 2007 at 2:38 am #


  19. avatar
    The Chief. | 17 May 2007 at 3:12 am #

    Achievement has been succeeded!

  20. avatar
    JJ | 17 May 2007 at 3:13 am #

    Love…..reign o’er me. Rain on me.

    After a long period denied, and without, I have love now. I’m not sure how it happened, but it did. Unexpectedly she came, and perhaps the time was right.

    WhiteHippyMoses – speak forth from the Burning Bush.

  21. avatar
    JJ | 17 May 2007 at 3:15 am #

    She came in singing. With a heart like a Blue Whale.

  22. avatar
    Anonymous | 17 May 2007 at 3:50 am #

    Ohhh, you’re such a romantic sk, she’s so lucky!


  23. avatar
    Anonymous | 17 May 2007 at 3:55 am #

    little woobies,

    i love to tell the world about my life its so impersonal it makes my day day day.

    Let everyone here know that im a abloggeration of the inhuman sociopath.

    I eats me breakfast for dinner and I flushes me brunch for free

    I love to sa bay beeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee
    cause its cool to use spoonerisms on national tv Primetime bayyyvbeeebeeee!!!!!!!!!!!!

    John howard does not endorse this comment.

    yours in a white white sauce,

    Edvard Munch,.

  24. avatar
    out of this world | 17 May 2007 at 4:11 am #

    look what ya leaving behind!

  25. avatar
    Anonymous | 17 May 2007 at 4:57 am #


  26. avatar
    ...being here, doing this... | 17 May 2007 at 5:40 am #

    “Love is a many-splendored thing,
    It’s the April rose that only grows in the early spring,
    Love is nature’s way of giving a reason to be living,
    The golden crown that makes a man a king.
    Lost on a high and windy hill,
    In the morning mist two lovers kissed and the world stood still,
    When our fingers touch my silent heart has taught us how to sing,
    Yes, true love’s a many-splendored thing.”


  27. avatar
    future wikipedia | 17 May 2007 at 6:36 am #

    And thus began what would later be known as Kilbey’s “Agony Aunt” period.

    In fact some commentators have gone so far as to suggest that it was in fact his much loved and long-running “Dear Steve” blog page column that endeared him most to the masses and lent him a place in the history books.

    Born Steven John Kilbey in Welwyn, UK on 13 September 1954, Kilbey in fact spent much of his formative years growing up in the quiet, far-flung and slightly backward government administrative city of Canberra, Australia. It is believed that this non-bohemian upbringing was one of the catalysts for the creation of… [end of excerpt]

  28. avatar
    Anonymous | 17 May 2007 at 6:58 am #

    you absolutely have a way with words
    and how wonderful to have love like that in your life

  29. avatar
    captainmission | 17 May 2007 at 7:22 am #

    simply beautiful and well timed

  30. avatar
    ~ | 17 May 2007 at 8:10 am #

    with Love
    a crimson rose
    pushes forth from black soil
    to be nourished by the radiant sun
    her waking dream
    drink the dew of the luminous moon
    her beauty sleep
    in hohenheim
    the doctor of harmony gathered dew droplets
    by the stars
    the sweetness pure of nature thus
    nothing else besides golden light
    needed for her fragrant
    hourglass bloom to open
    if not for Love
    there is no
    reason for
    the birth of stars or
    flowers to grow


  31. avatar
    Music | 17 May 2007 at 9:42 am #

    White hippy moses…what is music?

  32. avatar
    Music | 17 May 2007 at 9:46 am #

    …Why Music?
    When Music?
    Is music?

  33. avatar
    Anonymous | 17 May 2007 at 9:58 am #

    Anon 10.20 am

    Absence makes the heart grow love?

    No, for me Absence makes the heart grow forgetful !


    One fine day it will happen for me…??

    SK – Its great you can write/show how much you love your lady.


  34. avatar
    mathieu in Tucson | 17 May 2007 at 10:20 am #

    steve (All),

    Sometime today, my house was broken into and most of my electronics, guitars, music…all the things I love were taken…

    -12 string Yamaha
    -gibson bass
    -1968 gibson les paul($3400)
    …all the things I love…were stolen.

    *They smashed a bedroom window with a rock to get in.
    *Devistated the place, with grafitti no less.
    *Not sure what to do next; Rhia and I have contacted financial institutions and insurance companies.
    *Not looking for sympathy, but I am really fucking pissed off at the injustice.

    steve, we live in Tucson, AZ
    a border town- theft is everywere
    hum, we need to stop all people coming here that are not citizens.

    please advise, I am so sad,
    my guitars will never again play
    themselves, and take $50 off my shelf?


  35. avatar
    Mathieu in Tucson AZ | 17 May 2007 at 10:27 am #

    steve (All),

    Sometime today, my house was broken into and most of my electronics, guitars, music…all the things I love were taken…

    -12 string Yamaha
    -gibson bass
    -1968 gibson les paul($3400)
    …all the things I love…were stolen.

    *They smashed a bedroom window with a rock to get in.
    *Devistated the place, with grafitti no less.
    *Not sure what to do next; Rhia and I have contacted financial institutions and insurance companies.
    *Not looking for sympathy, but I am really fucking pissed off at the injustice.

    steve, we live in Tucson, AZ
    a border town- theft is everywere
    hum, we need to stop all people coming here that are not citizens.

    please advise, I am so sad,
    my guitars will never again play
    themselves, and take $50 off my shelf?


  36. avatar
    Anonymous | 17 May 2007 at 11:21 am #

    how could i say anything after reading your thoughts on love, steve…being in love is both humbling and nourishing at the same time…can you successfully be deeply in love with more than one person at a time? or am i on a fast track to a monumental fuck up? what are your thoughts, guys?
    -The Hellbound Heart

  37. avatar
    might whippy hoses | 17 May 2007 at 11:40 am #

    Oh wise one,

    How can I be more at peace with the world that surrounds me ?

  38. avatar
    Anonymous | 17 May 2007 at 11:56 am #

    My dears,

    Such food for thought!

    An erudite and love-ly bunch you are.

    To those who offered their sincere opinions and kind thoughts – merci.

    To those who suggest one is better off without it – I just can’t believe that’s true.

    To those who go for self gratification (not that there’s anything wrong with that) – whatever gets you through the night, dudes.

    While we may not purposefully kill love, sometimes I think we let it die.

    Is there CPR for love?

    I remember the first rush of love: exhilerating, intoxicating, lust that obliterates all other desires, even short separations are intolerable, reunification results in the sweetest excstasy.

    All is joy.

    That subsides. And you are left with habits and routines. The love that burned bright and illuminated everything around you becomes a dim light and you can no longer see a way forward, it no longer lights your path.

    Stages of love. Some of you seem to know how to jam the gears and stick in the same spot with this thing. A good spot. Good for you!

    You have all been most kind in responding to my question, especially you, my mangey associate.

    More research will be necessary, however, so I will proceed with that. If there’s a three step programme or some such, I’ll let you know.

    May God bless you all and may you all continue to love well.


  39. avatar
    Symon | 17 May 2007 at 12:13 pm #

    I like sending my partner the words to Glow Worm…that always seems to do the trick for her….along with lots of massages…romantic dinners and just general good old fashioned love and attention.

    I know that I am a lucky guy to have her in my life. Nice words Steve.

  40. avatar
    restaurant mark | 17 May 2007 at 12:20 pm #


  41. avatar
    no to love | 17 May 2007 at 12:27 pm #

    no, no, no.
    this just won’t do.
    face it:
    love NEVER stays.
    if it were not so i would have told you.
    think of everyone you’ve ever loved.
    they all left you, didn’t they?
    so will the one you love right now.
    you know this, really.

  42. avatar
    iggy's pop | 17 May 2007 at 12:29 pm #

    In the words of the Stooges –

    “I just wanna fuck – don’t want no romance!”

    Greatest and truest lyric ever written.

  43. avatar
    Anonymous | 17 May 2007 at 1:19 pm #

    Here’s why:
    we DIDN’T evolve from apes. Humans and apes BOTH evolved, seperately, from a common ancestor.

  44. avatar
    Anonymous | 17 May 2007 at 1:24 pm #

    can someone please discuss the post by mathieu of tucson?
    the poor bastard must be gutted.

  45. avatar
    CSTCoach | 17 May 2007 at 1:37 pm #

    “That subsides. And you are left with habits and routines.”

    BBon, i think you nailed the crux right here. Habit and routine kill everything.


  46. avatar
    Anonymous | 17 May 2007 at 1:45 pm #

    “Marty’s guitarplaying is like a jaguar & Pete’s is like a dolphin” ?!
    Steve, I can see exactly what you mean!
    Ok, then, how about telling us something of your trip to London in 1978?
    I know you saw the Only Ones (decades-old live cd just out!), but who else?
    Where’d you stay?
    Where’d you go?
    Got any photos from it?

  47. avatar
    night_breeze | 17 May 2007 at 2:51 pm #


    could it be time for you to reveal your hand, step up to the plate and offer the world a blog of your own ?

    c’mon now, don’t be shy.


  48. avatar
    veleska1970 | 17 May 2007 at 3:40 pm #

    in regards to mathieu of tucson~~i feel for you, despite your not wanting sympathy. 10 years ago i’ve had my car stolen, and once i had a wallet stolen, too, so i know what it’s like. you just suddenly don’t feel safe anymore, and not so much personal safety but the fact that your belongings aren’t safe. you feel very much violated.

    i’ll be positive and think that your stuff will be recovered. the first place i’d look is pawn shops around the area~~if you have some record of your things, like serial numbers or photos, you might be able to recover the things that way.

    good luck.

  49. avatar
    Anonymous | 17 May 2007 at 4:22 pm #

    veleska, you are a lovely lass!

  50. avatar
    ~ | 17 May 2007 at 4:41 pm #

    The Hellbound Heart
    is monogamy natural?
    is that what you are asking and as well
    can we limit ourselves to convention when
    our Heart and Soul deeply mutually Love
    two people
    Love,Desire these draw us along the path of self discovery
    read the ethical slut
    the title of course, a bit tongue in cheek um,
    yours and the others?
    couldn’t resist darling
    jealousy is not a natural state
    many (not all, success would depend on mutual acceptance and support by all involved) are happy to see their primary partner in bliss
    shared with another
    deeply in Love
    with another worthy of that Love
    doesn’t take Love away from the one that is
    that is impossible
    with honesty and a great heart
    under the moons orbit
    ah the moon has seen humans attempt to cage hearts
    for thousands of years
    she will not strike you down for Loving
    keep your feet planted firmly
    drink the dew in the garden
    lift your heart to the farthest stars
    look to the moon in the evening sky
    let it give you wings to soar
    never be afraid to Love


  51. avatar
    Anonymous | 17 May 2007 at 5:15 pm #

    Sorry your stuff got stolen; now is the perfect chance to get your home/apt better secured.
    I came to this country as a legal resident, didn’t become a citizen until 1998 and I never stole anything, smashed windows or wrote on walls.

    I’ve also been a victim of burglary…and I’m pretty sure the perps were all US citizens just like you’re sure your perps weren’t.

    Tread softly…and set that house alarm!


  52. avatar
    fantasticandy | 17 May 2007 at 5:31 pm #

    i’m so sorry to hear what happened to you.
    you must feel really awful.
    but remember, no matter how beautiful your instruments were,or how much you loved ’em……
    YOU made the sounds come out of ’em
    man, YOU did.
    i bet the scumbags who stole them and defiled your home have no idea what theyv’e done to you. just witless, callous morons unable to empathise or relate to other people in any kind of meaningfull way.
    but YOU still got them sounds in your head man! they couldn’t take that away from you.
    when the pain subsides you can get more, theyr’e just tools(no matter how nice they were).
    no one can steal your spirit.
    be strong.
    Rhia and yourself are what matters.
    people on here want to talk about love.
    if there was more of it about shit like this wouldn’t happen.
    peace and love to all,
    andy L.

  53. avatar
    stealthblue | 17 May 2007 at 6:59 pm #

    First of all, I am so very sorry to hear of your violation. That is purely abhorrent. I cannot blame you for feeling a slight bit bitter towards whoever did this to you. However…it could have been ANYONE. To instantly blame “Mexicans” (or any “illegal” citizen) is…well, it’s not exactly right is it? Believe me, I know, as I am also from Tucson, born and raised. We had somethings ripped from our garage, and it turned out it was a ring of theives specializing in tools…turns out they were also “white” and sold them for a meth habit. Anyway, just something to consider. Overall, it is a pretty nice town (you never know how you’ll miss it until after you’ve left for a while), and it technically is not a “border town” either…albeit is close enough! Seriously, I hope you somehow retreive at least some of your things, if not those particular items, at least something to play your music with. It is a sickening feeling to know that someone entered your personal dwelling (univited) and just helped themselves to your most valuable possessions. I feel for you, bro and send you good vibes. Just think…those bastards will “get theirs”…somehow, someday. They obviously don’t know that yet though. Anyway, I hope you feel better soon. All the best…
    Ben V.

  54. avatar
    davem | 17 May 2007 at 7:28 pm #

    Love to you Mathieu. Nice words Andyl and very true too.
    B. Bon – you’re the Peter of TTB surely?? The most favoured of disciples.
    Love to all.

    PS Really enjoying Beside Yourself at the moment. The title’s nearly as brill as the sounds.

  55. avatar
    davem | 17 May 2007 at 7:35 pm #

    BTW fiends if anyone’s a fan of The Only Ones – someone mentioned them earlier – they were live on Mark Lamarr’s Radio 2 show last Saturday night. I think You can still catch it if you go to the website.
    5 live tracks, loadsa chat. It ain’t Kilbey I admit but Perrett is pretty fab!

  56. avatar
    davem | 17 May 2007 at 7:38 pm #

    Sorry. Wrong link.

  57. avatar
    Sunshine | 17 May 2007 at 10:23 pm #

    SK, such beautiful words of advice can’t be found just anywhere. Thanks for that.

    All I know of love is that honesty, communication and openness are key… and a great sense of humor. At least these things seem to have worked well for me thus far.


    (Third time’s a charm? D’oh!)

  58. avatar
    isolde | 17 May 2007 at 10:26 pm #

    b.bon truly truly i say to you there’s only one step
    its called “be love”
    be the living embodiment of love
    this is all a person can do
    although this is difficult indeed
    everything else is beyond a person’s control or ability
    if you be love you will be in a state of love and it matters not what others do
    do not let the flame of your own joy and happiness go out and others will be ignited and transformed by your love
    do not count or measure what comes back to you it is beyond measure and even beyond your sight
    be in nature and wonder at the way each creature and plant has their own expression of love be it a flower or leaf in season or out and see each person as a flower or tree who can express themselves only as they are able, she who writes like the wattle in flower, he who stands alone like a gum tree, she who weeps like a willow by the stream … and so acceptance of the world comes and with it peace … b.bon!

  59. avatar
    paul lightfoot | 17 May 2007 at 11:34 pm #

    Mathieu in Tucson..

    Thats fucking awful about your gear, so sorry to hear that news. Wouldnt even wish it on christophercross.

    Did you say you were insured and will at least get some money to help cover the loss?? Anyone having their treasured music gear stolen is totally f*cked. Especially a 1968 Les Paul.

    Paul L
    Auckland New Zealand

  60. avatar
    JJ | 18 May 2007 at 2:40 am #

    Love is a rose but you better not pick it,
    only grows when it’s on the vine,
    hand full of thorns and you know you’ve missed it,
    lose your love when you say the word ‘mine’

    neil young

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