posted on December 13, 2007 at 2:34 am

1
a woman , an old foreign woman
pulled out in the road, double bay sydney
and crashed into my car
she wasnt looking
peter k who was passenger
wanted to call the cops
woman say
oh no dont call cops
please sir please
peter and her have a little argy bargy
which i cant hear due to roar of traffic
due to her thick accent
due to the fact im quite deaf
peter goes off to look for bitsa my car
in the road
and woman
starts promising me the moon
i give you any money
she starts producing documents
proving where she lives etc
she dont wanna lose her no claims bonus
or points off her licence
or maybe shes drunk
(or all of the above)
i say ok ok
the womans is crying and shaking
shes rabbitting on wildly and i cant make it out
peter comes back
should ring the cops he says
i decide to let lady off the hook
i pay you cash she says
gives me her phone #
i’ll ring ya i say
shes shivering and shaking and sobbing
i actually take her hand
i reassure her
its ok go home
the next day i call her
gone is the heartbroken old lady of yessaday
in her place a fierce euro-vixen, tuff and streetsmart
you too late she says
you waited too long she says
i was working all day i say
too late too late! she crows
shes harsh and triumphant
you get my details go to nrma(insurers)
haff a nice day
and hangs up
i cant be bothered chasing her or it up
fuck it
leave it to karma
2 someone asked me to do something
i said a half hearted yes
in the meantime i was bombarded with emails
and catalogs of their “product”
the someone used my name to get ins with other people
that i knew or had known
and ceaselessy went on and on about the damn thing
no no
you should go on about things when theyre done
not before they even start
and
im angry
that someone would think
because i agreed
that means they get the ok
to call up others ive worked with
i feel used
i feel its pushy
i feel its fucking uncool
then someone rings up my brother
demanding n cajoling for my phone number
(which he didnt get)
finally the last straw
a fucking email saying that in his friends opinion
if i were to sing over his music it would be as good as the church
(if not better)
that pissed me off
i was gonna do this thing eventually
but ive fucking had it with this bullshit
i politely decline in a private email
i say thats the end let it be
the someone threatens me
that he’ll email “everyone”
with my original email
where i agreed to do project
(big fucking deal)
and tried with various othermeans
to lay a guilt trip on me
then he emails my email address
all over the internet
so i have to suffer seeing the replies
as people respond
or whatever
i said let it be
i said stop
why couldnt you?
another email giving me a deadline date to do it by
or to say no
i already said no
i dont say it twice
unless you are as deaf as me
now what?
who cares
it just irks me
that
i tried to be nice
and i end up with this
3
often
being a songwriter and blogger etc
people make the mistake
of thinking
the things i write
are
about them
for them
to them
whatever
then
they get mad if i dont respond to their trip
i have had this at least a hundred times
but you sang this
you wrote that
sorry
thats what i do
i write stuff thats supposed to mean something to you
thats one of a writers devices
its amazing when its pulled off
16 year old kilbey discovers marc bolan
its like hes singing all this stuff just for me
except
im sane and reasonable enough to know he didnt
how could he?
have you seen that john lennon movie
where the dutch hippy is saying
but man you wrote all those songs to me
and lennons going
oh no not again
ok
that brings us to me
and some deleted comments
and my decision to have no more anons
for a while
someone once worked for us
over a quarter of a century ago
that person had a sibling
i vaguely remember them
i might have said hello or even chatted for a few minutes
years later said sibling shows up
asks my brother for my email address
can i give it? he says
oh yeah i know that person its ok (i guess)
i had intended to maybe catch up and have a cuppa tea
next time i was in their city
then begins
a torrent of emails
i had written this or that
we were or are or should be lovers says person
no thanks says i
i didnt write that to or for or about you
and
i love my wife very much
im not interested
then comes abusive emails
abusive comments by “friends”
all implying i have somehow left this lady in the lurch
what?!
we are virtually strangers
i have tempered my view of all this
because i was just trying to do the right thing
let someone down kinda gently
i dont wanna hurt anyones feelings
i understand how people could get the wrong idea
but
the emails continue
all kinds of stuff
again n again
i write back
please
no thanks
you got the wrong guy..
again
abuse emails
saying thats it goodbye
then the other ones start up
as if nothing happened
today i write final email
from now on your name will send it to my spam filter
leave me alone
this is delusional behaviour
thats the end
and
it starts up on my comments
so
there you go
if the people concerned read this
how sad that it got to this
why couldnt ya let it go
anyway
now they all know
i get real real mad tho
when people try n muckrake my family into this
then i really am the killer
dont ever ever ever
try n hurt my family!
and that
is fucking that!

55 Responses to “i shoulda known”

  1. avatar
    snowfaller | 13 December 2007 at 4:04 am #

    i’m with you killer – fuck ’em all!

    as i age i too wonder why people become worse and not better. it’s truly hard to believe.

    love.

  2. avatar
    ~ | 13 December 2007 at 4:22 am #

    yet another
    howling storm
    tip the tea cup
    let it all wash away
    let them have their hell and wish them well

    luck and love to you all,
    as always
    ~

  3. avatar
    the dean | 13 December 2007 at 4:43 am #

    A lot of people just aren’t the full quid. Too much of this and that, trapped in their narcissism.
    I don’t envy you having to put up with deluded fools.

  4. avatar
    steve kilbey | 13 December 2007 at 5:27 am #

    nice guys finish last

  5. avatar
    Richard | 13 December 2007 at 5:32 am #

    Although my comments appear under a name I’m not sure I’m any less anonymous than the ‘anons’.

    You and I will probably never meet. I’d be astonished if you’d heard of me.

    I’m pretty sure I don’t know any of the other people here.

    My name is Richard Bruxner. I live in Darwin. I am a father and husband. I am a lawyer – an honest but not terribly good one. I am not a vegeterian but I’m not so sure lately that I still enjoy eating meat.

    I imagine that one part (at least!) of that description may jar with you. But if I am to have a voice here it seems to me only fair that you know something about who and what I am.

  6. avatar
    craig1.618 | 13 December 2007 at 5:41 am #

    eleanor rigby’s and father mckenzie’s….

    may they find what they’re looking for some day

  7. avatar
    linjo | 13 December 2007 at 6:03 am #

    Thats why I dont let too many people into my life, so many weirdos out there or people that eventually want to take advantage of you. The old saying familiarity breeds contempt is so true.

    Linda

  8. avatar
    Tim K | 13 December 2007 at 6:13 am #

    nicely put richard. i too am a lawyer except i live in beijing. there, that’s my voice.

    steve is the church planning an electric tour of china some time soon? thought not. darn, i always miss out on the Oz tours for being up here.

    as for the loonies causing grief, we have all known them and experience has taught me that if you ignore them they will eventually go away but if you make eye contact they follow you everywhere. hope that helps.

  9. avatar
    markobears | 13 December 2007 at 6:14 am #

    I gave up on people years ago. Kindness is just a word for bending over and saying “stick it right there buddy” I honestly believe the majority of folks are narcisitic (no time for spell check) and love drama. They get a rush out of it. Please take care of the ears. Ya know you got some good fans who can go without hearing ya for a while so you can keep hearing. Church fans aint like that woman or other butthole. BTW I’ll change my picture since it bothers a church fan. I think its funny, and somewhat vulgar which is even more funny but oh well. I read under my last comment this might be good for selling some prints (O; Just donate my cut to something good. xoxo

  10. avatar
    Hellbound Heart | 13 December 2007 at 6:30 am #

    finally i think i’m getting my bloggy thingy properly running…i think! don’t worry…i’m a firm believer in ‘what goes around comes around’ and those individuals who have caused yoy grief will get theirs…
    love always…

  11. avatar
    Hellbound Heart | 13 December 2007 at 6:35 am #

    bugger…typo error…no such word as ‘yoy’…grrr…
    on the up side, yay, it worked!!
    H H

  12. avatar
    melissa | 13 December 2007 at 6:45 am #

    ^^ wow .. I think I’ve finally figured out how to post properly too!

    I felt really sad after reading today’s blogge. I don’t think I can ever bring myself to really believe that people are shitty on the whole but am continually being told by people ’round me to wise up and not be so trusting. Still, these things happen time and time again. It’s so disappointing 🙁

    There’s nothin’ wrong with being a nice, decent human bean. It’s the folks that zone into that vibe and take advantage of it that is the real problem.

  13. avatar
    daydreamer | 13 December 2007 at 6:46 am #

    #1 situation reminds me of that saying, No good deed goes unpunished. However you may be better off not pursuing it further as the old lady probly doesn’t have insurance or $$ anyway. So chalk it up to a dented car and an act of kindness on your part. #2 makes me sad as I’m pretty sure I know who “someone” is, and it saddens me he apparently went beyond the boundries of decency to pursue his quest. #3 is downright scary. What is it with people who can’t separate fantasy from reality? Anyways, I’m sorry your openness/kindness is causing such pain. Maybe you should go back to being rude ~

    love,
    Sandy

  14. avatar
    California Lurking | 13 December 2007 at 7:21 am #

    Hi Steve,

    Too bad about the persistent pests. I guess people don’t realize how far they push things. I think it is this lack of realization that ensures everyone’s individuality.

    I know I once pestered you for something (permission + Hotel Womb) and I truly appreciated your positive response. I realized all along that I was probably like a fly buzzing around your ear and you humoured me just to get rid of me.

    You also humoured me when I thanked you in person.

    So this should all add up to some positive kharma and balance out anything that wonk is trying to lay on you.

    Thanks again!

    Matt

  15. avatar
    Sunshine | 13 December 2007 at 7:36 am #

    Not that you asked, but Sunshine is actually my real middle name, and the name with which I always introduce myself. I’m honest about who I am on my myspace page and on my blog, but I don’t like to give out too many personal details over the internet. I don’t want to waste your blog comment space with things people can find out on their own if they choose.

    Steve, I’m gutted to hear you’ve been taken advantage of in all those ways. I love that you are still trying to give people the benefit of the doubt, and though it’s not much consolation, I’m sure you know it says a lot about your character. I still would like to believe there are more good people out there than bad. It’s the people who have ulterior motives that ruin everything for everyone else. They foolishly think what they do doesn’t have an impact, or don’t care, but I believe everything ripples like the beating of butterfly wings possibly effecting the tides in the ocean. Everything we each do has an effect on someone or something.

    I think trying to still give people the benefit of doubt is worth it. The times that people don’t overstep their boundaries, I think those times counterbalance all the bad karma other people put out there.

    I firmly believe that those that choose to take without giving anything back will get bitten in the ass eventually. I’m getting bitter in my old age, though. So much negativity exists in the world, is any of it ultimately necessary? Must people blame others’ wrongs for their poor behavior?

    ~Sunshine

  16. avatar
    Sunshine | 13 December 2007 at 7:39 am #

    affecting the tides… (typo)

  17. avatar
    fantasticandy | 13 December 2007 at 7:59 am #

    hell, killer…iv’e only just really started out at this ‘rock’ thingy(at a very advanced age!)
    and iv’e already had all these problems too.
    i know you needed to ‘get it off your chest’…and i think you came to the right place!
    hey…even a rock ‘god’ has shitty days!
    one of the reasons you won’t find me on HW is because of this kind of crap!
    i respect you as a person, and as a friend and of course a wonderful musician, writer, painter,….blah..blah..blah..ect. ect. ect.(damn..yer a gifted sod!)
    so when ‘NOW’ arrives at KHHQ in a couple of weeks….you know damn well all i’ll be asking for is an opinion and nowt else.
    and if your’e too busy…or even just can’t be arsed..it’s ok with me!
    oh,
    and of more importance than any of my proceeding drivel,
    don’t fuck your ears!!!!!!
    enjoy…if poss, remaining gigs.

    best wishes to all the members of the ‘kilbey harrassment league’ involved in todays blogge,
    whether they be deceitful, misplaced, deluded, misguided or just plain mad.
    we must show some love for the lost.
    andy L.

  18. avatar
    steve kilbey | 13 December 2007 at 8:33 am #

    and im sorry to all the nice anons who write on here
    and any other anons who wanna argue about something relevent
    i wanna keep the whole thing open
    i hate restricting it
    i never anticipated that people would use my comments page
    to defame slander and libel me
    but hey….

  19. avatar
    高 sharka | 13 December 2007 at 8:39 am #

    If you put yourself out there, it seems to invite obsessive behaviour in some people. Eminem wrote about it in the song “Stan”. Love turns to hate when you can’t be the person they want you to be. Tricky situation.

    Markobears- I like your picture very much, perhaps your next one will be even better?

  20. avatar
    Melby Symon | 13 December 2007 at 8:53 am #

    Steve…I’m not sure what’s going on with the world and some it inhabitants, but sometimes I think that the planets must somehow be out of alignment to make so many people (not the real feinds here I must add)fucking wacky.

    Censorship is abhorrent…but your blog aint a democracy or a public service…so run it anyway you want. I’ll still read, even if I can’t post a comment.

    By the way…I’m a 39 yr old guy living in the outer eastern suburbs of Melbourne with an 11 yr old daughter (world’s best city but that’s another story). I appreciate listening to your music…reading your views and I sincerely hope that you can keep the nutters at arms length.

    ps…can’t wait till sunday nite…hope the ear is well !

  21. avatar
    public savant | 13 December 2007 at 9:15 am #

    You’ve been incredibly tolerant SK. I think it’s about time you filtered out the dreck.

    Do you still take the alkalizing drink? It may be an idea for this eve.

  22. avatar
    Peter Podcast | 13 December 2007 at 9:49 am #

    Totally understandable.
    If someone wants to say something worth saying they wont have to hide behind a cloak of anonymity.
    Good on you for finding the right button an all.

  23. avatar
    MattyC | 13 December 2007 at 9:58 am #

    That is a really bad day.

    There are lots of us who post anon because we just can’t remember the goddam password.

    Take it easy and keep the good stuff coming.

    Matt

  24. avatar
    eek | 13 December 2007 at 10:31 am #

    Wow. You really hit the trifecta with these three. I imagine it makes you want to put your guard way back up and I certainly can’t blame you if you do. But I think many of us appreciate the very openness and kindness which made you vulnerable in each of these situations and I sincerely hope the positives have and continue to outweigh the negatives. And I hope now that the latter two situations are out in the open that the nastiness will stop for you.

    Now in the future you just have to watch out for little old ladies and fans. 😉

    i write stuff thats supposed to mean something to you
    thats one of a writers devices
    its amazing when its pulled off

    Many of your songs have done that for me and it really is amazing when it happens. It’s fantastic when a song by people you’ve never met (well I have now, but for years and years I hadn’t met any of you) captures an emotion, a thought, a mood you have in a way you’ve never heard anyone else do before. It’s wonderful to know (or at least feel) that someone somewhere feels the same things you do — even if it’s just for one song…or even one line in that song. Absolutely incredible. (I won’t deluge you with strange emails or show up on your doorstep or anything like that though….)

  25. avatar
    bjc | 13 December 2007 at 10:40 am #

    You’re having a rough trot but your positive thinking is carrying you through…that’s real strength.
    You don’t owe anyone here anything and all fans should respect that.

  26. avatar
    Thomas Thomsen, Denmark | 13 December 2007 at 11:35 am #

    Yep, nice guys do finish last.

    I used to be one myself. Still am I guess, but not as much as I used to be. Don’t ever trust strangers (like that old lady) – they don’t give a fuck about you. Family’s all that matters. I don’t even expect that much from my friends any more. Been dissapointed too many times…

  27. avatar
    Ethereal Butterfly | 13 December 2007 at 12:06 pm #

    We do need to protect ourselves from spiritual attacks, boundaries are called for, and the more vulnerable and lacking in defence we are perceived to be the more prone we are to spiritual attack. Our spirits and our kin need us to protect them it is our duty and right to do so.
    When I first began posting comments here, some of you may recall, I was being constantly harassed by some anonymous coward, who was always deriding my views, but was quickly protected by the benevolent commentators (such as a very kind sir that being Brien C). ‘Anonymous ‘was also so blatantly obvious as to who they were, it was Pathetic and cowardly, so much so, that I won’t spend anymore time on them here. Yay!! for putting up a barrier to anonymous I say!

  28. avatar
    Jen Jewel Brown | 13 December 2007 at 1:25 pm #

    time to put out the cats

  29. avatar
    cracka | 13 December 2007 at 2:28 pm #

    hey Mr. K.,

    you’re so f…absolutely right

    fruitcakes getting their hands on private stuff makes me feel uncomfortable

    hell yeah, i sympatise, man
    & cross da fingas 4 not forgetting the passwo:d 🙂

    luv’
    cracka, amman

  30. avatar
    veleska1970 | 13 December 2007 at 2:28 pm #

    1.)
    i’m sorry to hear about your accident…..are you and peter ok? well, i’m sure y’all are, but seriously, in about one or two days you’re both going to feel it~~soreness in strange places. and i hope your car wasn’t too banged up and the repairs are minimal.

    but what REALLY pisses me off is the ….for lack of a better word….bitch that fucked you over like that. you did good by her and she crapped on you. why do people have to be that way?? i mean, now you have a banged up car, you and peter both are going to be sore, and then she did that to you. **grrrr**

    and i don’t feel that way just because it happened to you~~steve kilbey~~i would feel the same way regardless. that was just downright shitty of her. and just what did she mean by “you’re too late”? too late for what?!??!!! to do the decent thing??????

    2.)
    a big thumbs-down to the weasel who used you like that. i guess that’s an occupational hazard that you have, being who you are and such. but i think certain people forget that regardless of who you are, you are still a human being and it is NEVER right to use a person to achieve selfish gains.

    and then have the nerve to smear you by emailing everybody like he said he would, as if to beat you down into an ashamed submission of some sort, to manipulate you by making you feel guilty to do what they want. **shaking my head**

    3.)
    steve, i have enjoyed reading your blog in the two years you have been writing. i know that by now it has been very obvious about me, but i’ll state it anyway, and not so much for you but for those anons you speak of: i have never “expected” anything from you just because you are doing what a gazillion others of us in cyberland do~~write a blog. no more than i “expect” anything from anybody else whose blogs i read. and eek said it exactly: in the going on 23 years i have been a fan of the church, you have written things that have touched me in some way, but of course i’ve never once thought that you were writing it just FOR ME. as if you were sitting down one day and said “oh, i’m going to write this one for veleska.” **pfffft** as if.

    puh-leezzz. hah~~before you started this blog you didn’t even know i existed, LOL. yes, your poems/songs/blogs speak to me, and that’s why i’ve been an ardent fan and admirer for so many years and will continue to be until i take my last breath, but i know that they weren’t written FOR me.

    i think it’s very pathetic that anyone would think along those lines. it’s pathetic that someone is so utterly bereft of an identity of their own they feel you, steve, are the sole reason for their existence. and then get angry with you if you don’t provide whatever it is they are lacking within themselves. to me that smacks of an obviously unbalanced personality, and also a co-dependent one. it’s unhealthy, and that goes without saying.

    but i’m glad you have shut down the anon comments. and i’m sorry that you have had to resort this and to deleting comments. i’m not apologizing for whatever they said, i’m apologizing to you for having to go through it~~it’s unnecessary.

    i’ve never posted anonymously and never had a desire to. i never saw the point. my real name is veleska, i live in texas, and i’m a photographer. of course, anybody who reads my blog would know all this. hardly anybody does, but that’s fine, i don’t do it for the attention. i had a blog years ago anyway, and then only started it up again when i discovered you had one, just for the fun of it i guess, and it’s morphed into my personal venting room.

    i’m sorry this is rambling, but i feel it has to be said. and you say you can understand how people can get the wrong idea, but frankly i don’t. not if they are healthy enough to understand that you are not responsible for whatever their problem is~~no more than anybody else is. it’s a shame that they have the warped notion that you are.

    but thanks, steve, for everything.

    thanks for you.

    hugz and lotza love……

  31. avatar
    persephone2u | 13 December 2007 at 3:32 pm #

    Fuck karma. Give us all the name of the d*ckhead who is putting your name all over the internet because you don’t wanna work on his project and we’ll have fun with him! I could think of a lot of fun things to do with this guy and his e-mail address. *puts devil horns on and begins plotting away*

  32. avatar
    Brien Comerford | 13 December 2007 at 3:40 pm #

    Nice guys invariably finish last. Nice guys need sedation to get a grip. Nice guys love animals and nature. Nice guys are misunderstood and ignored by the media. Many nice guys die young. Many nice guys can’t cope with the world’s truly hellish realities. Nice guys are pacifists. Many nice guys are self-destructive. Nice guys are lucky if they can date or marry nice girls. Nice guys can relate to the song “People Are Strange”. Nice guys are creatures of prey. Nice guys are nice to unattractive girls. Nice guys don’t really know if their nice guys. I’m a nice guy without my medications and booze but when I’m really nice I need to be locked in a padded room.

  33. avatar
    Anthony | 13 December 2007 at 3:42 pm #

    Hi Steve,
    Sorry I haven’t posted in a while, but of course I’ve been reading daily. The funny thing about that scene in the John Lennon movie is the Dutch hippy quotes the lyrics to one of Paul’s songs instead of John’s… funny and sad at the same time. Hope the shows are going well and I wish I could be there! Tiare sent the link to the pic I shot of you on the Fender Australian site. Hope you liked it too. Take care and hope to see you in the States soon.
    Anthony

  34. avatar
    mandn | 13 December 2007 at 4:06 pm #

    you know Orpheus, a wise person once said to me:

    Life is great.
    Until you have to leave your house and deal with
    all the assholes out there.

    xoxox
    Mary

  35. avatar
    Leelinau | 13 December 2007 at 4:53 pm #

    Wow, lots of people are meaner and crazier than [i] orginally thought.

    Good to know now.

    Damb eurotrash. I can’t BElieve that, how awfully crappy.

    O_o

    It does seem like nice people finish last, whats THAT all about???!

    *sigh

    [stop]

    ^_^

  36. avatar
    Cee | 13 December 2007 at 5:17 pm #

    Unbelievable that people can’t see and respect the boundaries. Distinguish fantasy from reality…I mean if you’re that obsessed with someone that’s what fan fiction is for. (You should read my Alan Rickman stuff!)
    Everyday I ask my higher power to protect me from negative people, help me recognize them and steer clear from them! I also ask for positive and creative people be sent my way. Too long I tolerated creatures who only wanted to drain my good energy to heal themselves and leave me empty.
    Yes, what goes around DOES come around – I’ve seen it happen.
    So just know we support you Esteban, and are very sorry you are going through all of this, in the long run NONE of these people will matter.
    Un abrazo,
    Cee
    xox

  37. avatar
    CAPTAIN BEYOND | 13 December 2007 at 5:58 pm #

    let me have ‘a’ crack at that anonymous prick…
    Anubis

  38. avatar
    Jab @ BZT | 13 December 2007 at 6:00 pm #

    Ah yes, it all comes back to the smart person’s rule of thumb.

    People are shit.

    Until they prove that they are not.

    Only then, you get respect from me.

    Although I’m not real active in commenting here, I do read every day. Most of you characters are groovy.

    But, then, you got the shitpeople. Which always leads to banning anonymous comments. And rightly so. Wise move Steve. I for one, do not see it as censorship.

    It’s a buffer from the shit people. Who, by the way, can go suck themselves.

  39. avatar
    MEM | 13 December 2007 at 6:19 pm #


    who was it that said…

    “waste no time arguing about what a good man should be… be one.”

    or something to that effect… somehow i believe these words are need at the moment…

    mem

  40. avatar
    davem | 13 December 2007 at 7:21 pm #

    Sorry to hear about your probs SK. Hope you know I’d ALWAYS be in your corner.
    Blog or no blog, contact or not.
    Your words and music have got me through so much, I’d never hear a bad word said about you. I hate it when you go through shit. I’m lucky to be a happy man but fuck knows where I’d be without your art….in my bad times it was your art that meant the most.
    Much love to you, hero of mine!!!

    xx

  41. avatar
    Cee | 13 December 2007 at 8:58 pm #

    ps:
    Next time listen to Pete.

  42. avatar
    PAGEY | 13 December 2007 at 9:32 pm #

    carcrash what you sish. sheesh. oops. regreat. god bless

  43. avatar
    steve kilbey | 13 December 2007 at 9:35 pm #

    thanks for support my dears
    ok
    all shored up
    now
    onwards ho!

  44. avatar
    davem | 13 December 2007 at 10:13 pm #

    Tony.
    I like your stuff. I don’t like to see people hurt or upset.Life’s hard enough.
    Love to all!
    x

  45. avatar
    Belfrank | 13 December 2007 at 10:25 pm #

    Damn those Euro trash tarts Killa 😉

    Main thing is you were’nt hurt – Karma will do the rest.

    I’ll always be me on here – Belfrank – really – Frank Donnelly – ex of Belfast and re-named to avoid confusion with ‘Dublin’ Frank Kearns.
    I’m sure all you commenters feel the world’s a better place for knowing that.

    I digress – Hope shake off the psycho fan – no lauging matter I’m sure. Especially since you try to be kind and that doesnt work. Take no shit I say!

    Have a good rest of tour and hope the ear is mending. Love to Koppesy.

    Belfy – never a non

  46. avatar
    tim | 13 December 2007 at 10:34 pm #

    unfortunate that some people mistake kindness for weakness. anything moving forward with that secret canadian project?

    best to you and yours.

    timf

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    Richard | 13 December 2007 at 10:42 pm #

    there’s an old saying steve no good deed goes unpunished. i’m a strong believer in what comes around goes around and it’s never in the way one would expect or be able to correlate.

    in regards to the delusional emailer i would imagine you’ve dealt with this type of behavior before and i’m sure it doesn’t get any easier every time you’re forced to deal with it. what we want or expect from people in terms of etiquette or behavior is unfortunately usually not reciprocated. try not to let it bother you you’ve been more than polite and it might be time to get nasty which would be well within your rights.

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    CSTCoach | 13 December 2007 at 11:03 pm #

    A pox on all their houses for plaguing yours!

    unbelieveable!

    hope the ole Falcon is okay and still roadworthy, and that you and Mr PK are too.

    ryan

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    restaurant mark | 14 December 2007 at 12:59 am #

    what a fucked series of events that all was…or is…sorry man…really am…but even though nice guys do sometimes finish last, don’t ever let it keep you from doing or saying something nice…it probably makes it harder…i find it difficult at times…but it would be bad decision to go that route.
    what do ya mean those songs aren’t about me???
    damn…
    no…not quite that crazy

    take care

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    rogernimrod | 14 December 2007 at 1:30 am #

    speaking of john, nice doco on beatles last nite on telly.not very often u get a fresh angle, albeit through the eyes of friends of relatives of friends of the band…

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    Brien Comerford | 14 December 2007 at 1:58 am #

    Let me intoduce myself. I am Brien Comerford. I’m an overweight animal loving vegetarian who loves meatless cuisine and Jim Beam. My Favorite band is The Church. Steven Kilbey is a great lyricist and vocalist whose nonpareil voice has John Lennon, Syd Barratt, and David Bowie inflections. I dig Veleska, Andy, Davem, Ethereal Butterfly and many other astute commentors especially the ones who are really astute via ignoring or loathing me. I live alone with a cat and in my past life I was a gluttonous tame rat. I love SK but I get on his nerves because in 2008 I want The Church to perform “Sealine” and “Under The Milky Way” before being officially inducted in the Aria Hall Of Fame. I love guitar virtuoso Jeff Beck but I don’t like Beck. I have blackouts but they have NOTHING to do with my cataclysmic intemperance. My tombstone will read “He Should Have Been Aborted or Impaled to Death on a Meathook.”
    You are what you eat and I like nuts and walnuts.

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    ...being here, doing this... | 14 December 2007 at 2:57 am #

    “shes shivering and shaking and sobbing
    i actually take her hand
    i reassure her
    its ok go home”

    “the next day i call her
    gone is the heartbroken old lady of yessaday
    in her place a fierce euro-vixen, tuff and streetsmart
    you too late she says”

    “i cant be bothered chasing her or it up
    fuck it
    leave it to karma”

    perhaps it was
    karma
    that brought you together
    perhaps for the completion
    the balancing
    of an old cycle
    from “yessalifetime”

    don’t feed the demons…
    any of them

    end the cycles here

    disengage

    move on

    shine

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    captain mission | 14 December 2007 at 6:16 am #

    obviously music touches people, infects and effects them, people need meaning and people invent meaning where there may not be meaning, but it means something for them, mental homes are filled with people who place significance on the most randon events, i knew a girl who got messages from static on tv, and i know people who hang on to every lyric their fave pop star writes but i guess there’s a thin and wide line between where responsibility ends for the artist and starts for the listener and it appears obvious that people crossed the line.
    you obviously used least restrictive methods and they didn’t work, seems fair to resort to more restrictive ones, i mean there is no reason on earth to keep dialogue open with people who are just abusive.
    however i do disagree with the ‘nice guys finish last’ comment, yeah nice guys may not, get the girl, promotion, contract, etc but eventually the nice guy will rise above those that are just plain nasty, why? becuase the nice guy is secure enough to know they don’t need the thin protection of a massive ego and their humility is more robust than all the defense mechanisms the world throws at them, in the guise of personality. anyway, its sad that you have to restrict comments but its also better to have quality than quantity.

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    Daniel12 | 14 December 2007 at 9:41 am #

    Wow, I go away for a few days and everything changes.
    Everyones dressed in red and blue ,the wags are gone and there’s real comments too.
    Sorry to read of all these tence dealings with people but i think you’ve taken the right approach.
    Enjoyed your gig on Tuesday night.
    Wanted to write a little blurb about it but my net service expired. It’s back now but it looks like you’ve all moved on.

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    Centuryhouse | 16 December 2007 at 4:18 am #

    On #1, I sympathize with you – a similar incident occurred to me recently.

    On #2, I know the person and situation that you are referring to, and am disappointed in the misrepresentations you made.

    I would say don’t agree to do things halfheartedly. Let your word be your bond, your ‘yes’ be your ‘yes’. It’s better to say ‘no’ than make a liar out of yourself.

    I would also say that if you’re going to blog about it, for Gods sake be truthful instead of twisting the story and embellishing with inaccuracies and falsehoods.

    Your have smeared the reputation and misrepresented the actions of a really stand up guy. You talk about ‘karma’ a lot – remember that it’s more than just a word, and it applies to you in this situation.

    I know you’re not perfect and I don’t expect you to be. But the way you handled backing out of that project was not respectable.

    Daniel


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